A Sound Relationship

You get to have one overwhelming desire in your lifetime. And the Universe is bound to give you that thing.

It can be that you want to get rich, maybe you want someone to care about you deeply, or you want to stay healthy and not struggle with diseases once in a while—anything you want. It has to be that overwhelming desire, and everything else is contradictory.

When you are seeking out something or someone to become happy, you are allowing yourself to be unhappy in the meantime. You don't need anyone or anything to make you happy.

If someone affirms that they can only be happy after they get "X" or become "Y," that "X" or "Y" becomes their new prison.

Even with love and relationships, it goes deeper. You are seeking happiness within something or someone else when the thing should be quite the opposite.

Once you become happy by yourself, you may then be able to share that happiness with someone you think is worthy of it.

"You can also find someone who is just as happy as you are. The secret to a happy relationship is two happy people."

— Naval

You have to set boundaries according to the things you've learned so far. You should not be reluctant to let those mistakes happen again.

It's been a profound mistake of mine to try to change an entity I love. It doesn't work that way.

If you want to change someone so that you can love him or her, you should instead love someone who has already changed.

People have their own standards when it comes to choosing someone to share their existence, or their life in general, with. If someone gets rejected by an individual, it doesn't mean that he or she is unlovable or unlikable. You can't match those standards up analytically; they are completely individualistic, and the more you try to match them up, the deeper you dig into the rabbit hole.

There is no such thing as low standards or high standards. If someone can't fit into another person's standards, it doesn't mean he or she is low-standard. Instead, what it means is that they are not likely the person who would mutually have those standards figured out with you.

It's even better to create boundaries. When you have your own standards, you won't be throwing stones in the dark. From that very moment, you start valuing yourself.

Setting boundaries—remember, you can't wait for life to happen. Destiny doesn't exist, and you create your own destiny.

When you cultivate a healthy diet for yourself, you are likely to attract someone who takes good care of that diet alongside you.

When you start cultivating the habit of reading books, you are likely to attract someone who respects your space and reads alongside you.

Here, only by valuing yourself can you improve the relationship that you have.

That is what "Reasonable Love" is.